• Shelly

The Trans-formative Process

Updated: Nov 25, 2018

The Beauty of the Butterfly


Everyone has the capacity for growth. The question is, what do you want the end to look like? This is your transformation process!

Honesty is the best policy, right? Okay, here it goes. I used to be afraid of butterflies. No, seriously! These fragile, beautiful, and gentle little creatures scared me to death! So you're probably wondering why is the #butterfly the theme of my #counseling center.


When I was younger, there were parts of my life that were out of control. I didn't feel safe. Trust was a huge factor, and it affected many areas of my life. In my mind, there was no way to control a #butterfly. It flew wherever it wanted. I felt powerless against this little creature.

Have you ever felt like this before? When you've suffered from #trauma, sometimes your vision becomes skewed. Things that are small seem big, and things that are big or important seem minute and of no interest. It's like looking through the wrong side of the binoculars.


If you make the right connection, #counseling can help you put things into a more healthy perspective. Just like the #butterfly, I had to go through a #transformation process. And boy, it sure wasn't easy. I won't bore you with my life's story, but I will say this, life is about #transformation. It's about a dramatic change, in form or appearance. From the moment you are born, your appearance changes. Truthfully, no one gets away from it.


It took years for me to work through my fear of butterflies, but I made it. As a matter of fact, I saw a big beautiful brown, white, and tan butterfly in my back yard the other day. And you know what? I didn't run and scream like I would have done in the past. Nope. Instead, I looked at it, smiled, and said, "Wow, what a beautiful butterfly." And in that moment, I realized, I, like that butterfly, was free. Free to gaze at its beauty. Free to watch it flutter around the flowers in the garden.


My thoughts about butterflies are different. My thoughts about myself are different. I have come to realize that we can all be different and still co-exist. That's the power of #transformation.


I encourage you to take the journey to growth. Sometimes you have to be intentional about what you want to change. Some things you can do by yourself, and somethings require the support of a professional, like a #counselor. Whatever it is, I encourage you to take a step of faith. One small step is all it takes.


Welcome to your new journey. Welcome to your #transformation.

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