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    Butterfly Effect Counseling & Consultation Center

    Shelly Bates, M.A., LPC

    EMDR Trained

    Brainspotting (BSP) Counseling Practitioner

    Mindfulness Coach

    1750 N Collins Blvd

    Suite 206-C

    Richardson, Texas 75080

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    Counseling and therapy for teen girls and women struggling with the effects of sexual trauma, early parent/adult figure attachment challenges, and intergenerational trauma, who want to break the cycle and live their best life.

    Christian Counseling provided upon request.

     

    Hey! I see you. 

    When boundaries are crossed it can confuse how you see yourself and relationships. The world feels unsafe.

    Sometimes it's hard to breathe.

    You find yourself frustrated. You are stuck in a cycle of sadness, fear, and worry.

    You worry that you won't measure up - that you're not good enough.

    You want to connect with others, but you're afraid to fully trust.

    You fear being rejected by others so you resort to being a "yes" person. You find it hard to say no, regardless of what it cost you. You can't quite seem to find your voice.

     You find yourself feeling sad, lonely, exhausted and overwhelmed. You find yourself being overly emotional, or shutting off your emotions altogether.

    When the pain is unbearable, you feel hopeless and helpless, and may experience suicidal thoughts or engage in self-harm. 

    You are suffering in silence.

    But...

    "Just like the butterfly, I too will awaken in my own time" 

     Deborah Chaskin

    There's a part of you that wants to break out of this cycle, even if you don't know what the other side looks like. Even though it seems scary. You know you want more out of life.

    You want to change the narrative of your life's story. You are determined to live life to the fullest.

    You want to be more confident in yourself.

    You want healthy relationships.

    You want the energy to do things you enjoy.

    You want to be free from your past, live in today, and see your future.

    "Adding wings to caterpillars does not create butterflies, it creates awkward and dysfunctional caterpillars. Butterflies are created through transformation"     

    Stephanie Marshall

    Transformation takes courage. It means rolling up your sleeves to work through those things that have kept you stuck. Truth? Transformation is NOT easy, especially when you try to do it alone.

    But when you find the right person to come alongside to help you, the reward can be beautiful. And because you've found me, I want you to know I am with you every step of the way.

    I am thrilled that you have taken the first step, which can be the hardest step.

    Meet Shelly

    Hey there!

     

    I'm a living witness that life can throw punches that will literally knock the wind out of you. Yup, I'm human. I'm guessing you're the same, right? But if there's one thing I can say about life's battles is that although they were tough, I made it through.

     

    I've found that I'm a bit stronger than I thought I was. I am a survivor.

    I know what it's like to feel like your world is falling apart before you, and you feel helpless. I hit rock bottom, and that's when I knew I needed help. I couldn't do it alone, so I didn't. I sought help through therapy. And well, here I am. 

     

    I've made it my life's mission to help females like you because I was once like you.  You want to gain control over your life and not allow your emotions, circumstances, or past continue to dictate your life. Girl, I've got you!

    If part of life is about relationships, then it stands to reason that the therapeutic relationship is equally important to your success. When the connection is there, nothing can stop the healing process. Together, we can do this. 

     

    Areas of Expertise

    Anxiety & Stress

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    Trauma

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