Healing and transformation to live your best life.

Therapy for those dealing with unhealed wounds that may look like depression, anxiety, PTSD, grief and loss, and relational challenges, who want to heal the wounds and live a better, more joyous life. 

Christian Counseling provided upon request.


Truth? We all have life wounds. No one gets away from it, but what happens when those wounds don't heal

You find yourself living in cycles. You are frustrated. You are stuck in sadness, fear, and worry.

You worry that you won't measure up; that you're not good enough.

You want to connect with others, but you're afraid to fully trust because of the demeaning and abusive words and actions of your partner. Perhaps you were touched inappropriately or sexually abused, and your body seems to reject the notion of trust and intimacy. 

You fear being rejected by others so you resort to being a "yes" person. You find it hard to say no, regardless of what it cost you. Or perhaps you shut down and can't quite seem to find your voice

Unhealed wounds also stem from generational patterns and oppressions passed down through the bloodline, called epigenetics. It's often found in beliefs, experiences, and practices. Your body holds history - the good, the bad, and the ugly.

 Most wounds in life heal or resolve with the proper attention and care. Wounds that are hidden, blocked or unseen due to generational or bloodline transmission can turn become toxic and affect you mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. ​Sometimes it feels like a shell within a shell, as if there is a part of you that is sleeping.

But the time for you to awaken is now.

"Just like the butterfly, I too will awaken in my own time"   Deborah Chaskin

There's a part of you that wants to be free, even if you may not know what freedom looks like. ​Yes, we all have wounds from the past, but through healing, you no longer have to allow the wounds to dictate and drive your life. 

"Life is full of pain,. Let the pain sharpen you, but don't hold on to it." Patricia Nombuyiselo Noah (quoting from My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem)

Healing and transformation are your portions. Yes, the process takes courage. It means rolling up your sleeves to work through those wounds. Transformation is NOT easy, especially when you try to do it alone. But when you find the right person to come alongside to hold space for you and support you in your healing journey, the reward can be beautiful. And because you've found me, I want you to know I am with you every step of the way.

Meet Shelly

Hey there!


I'm a living witness that life can throw punches that will literally knock the wind out of you. Yup, I'm human. I'm guessing you're the same, right? But if there's one thing I can say about life's battles is that although they were tough, I made it through.


I've found that I'm a bit stronger than I thought I was. I am a survivor.

I know what it's like to feel like your world is falling apart before you, and you feel helpless. I hit rock bottom, and that's when I knew I needed help. I couldn't do it alone, so I didn't. I sought help through therapy. And well, here I am. 


I've made it my life's mission to help females like you because I was once like you.  You want to gain control over your life and not allow your emotions, circumstances, or past continue to dictate your life. Girl, I've got you!

If part of life is about relationships, then it stands to reason that the therapeutic relationship is equally important to your success. When the connection is there, nothing can stop the healing process. Together, we can do this. 


Areas of Expertise

Anxiety & Stress



PTSD & Trauma


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